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Putting effort in your marriage
Marriage is difficult. Like anything else, a relationship is work. What happens when you feel like you’re the only one putting in the effort? All marriages hit rough patches, but sometimes it feels like you’re trying harder than your spouse. In those periods of life, take a step back and consider a couple of things… Continue reading
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Communication in Military Marriages
As a military spouse of almost six years, I do not pretend to know everything about military life or marriage as a whole. I do know, however, that one of the major problems tends to be communication. This week, I will break down the different communication styles and techniques that might be involved with military… Continue reading
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Seasons in Marriage
The past few posts have looked at marriage killers, communication, building a strong foundation, and managing expectations of real-life love and social media expectations. These are important areas, but there’s more involved in marriage outside of these important basics. You can have a strong foundation, communicate well, avoid the trap of marriage killers, and be… Continue reading
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Rebuilding Trust: Overcoming Marriage Killers
Before forgiveness, an action breaks trust and can hurt the marriage. Although various actions can fall into this category, we will look at a couple major marriage killers. I want to clearly state that I do not condone domestic violence. I do not encourage it, nor do I endorse it. If you are experiencing domestic… Continue reading
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Transforming Arguments: Marital Collaboration Tips
Yesterday we looked at what happens when we share our private arguments with people outside of the marriage and the result of taking sides. Today, we look at how to fight the problem rather than your partner. Fighting a problem looks a lot different because of the tactical approach. Fighting a problem requires collaboration and… Continue reading
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Fixing Misunderstandings: A Guide for Couples
In looking at social media, we covered how big gestures are not always the real love we are looking for. Another thing that social media has made us very comfortable with is opening our lives for others to see. Our parents and grandparents called it “airing out your dirty laundry” but we call it telling… Continue reading
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Real Love Gestures vs. Social Media Pressure
You see the reels, TikTok videos, and Facebook montages about men and women who make the effort. The effort, as defined by the video, is a large display of affection that costs hundreds of dollars. Usually, these videos are followed up with the phrase “if he or she wanted to, they would”. This can be… Continue reading
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Addressing Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage
I have been away from my blog for a little while due to being busy with classes. I am currently working on a masters in marriage and family therapy, which has led me to understand the conflicts in marriage a little more. Many problems with marriage start with unrealistic expectations and, possibly a misunderstanding of… Continue reading
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Whose child is this?
The writer reflects on her children’s personalities, finding their traits reminiscent of her and her husband. She humorously observes their behavior and enjoys comparing it to their own. Despite this, she acknowledges that their children ultimately belong to God, emphasizing her mission to raise them to follow His will and influence others to do the… Continue reading
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Falling apart together
I started praying every hour. I thought it was a great way to put God first in all the moments of life and it has been. However, there has been some pain in the praying. It is one thing to say that all is well, even in the painful moments, however it is even harder… Continue reading
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Throwing Stones
Do you ever compare yourself to others? You meet someone or look at an acquaintance and think “at least I am not THAT bad”. This happens most often when we dislike the individual. We tell ourselves that we are the better mom, wife, or person overall. There are times we could be tempted to wish… Continue reading
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Dear Anxiety
Content note: This post discusses anxiety, self-doubt, and mental health. This week has been unsettling. It has not been due to anything in particular, just an increase in stress, anxiety, and an overall fear that nothing was going right. Now that the week is over, I imagine these feelings were due to new projects that… Continue reading
Anchored Where We Grow
Faith, marriage, family, and military life—rooted in grace and grounded in real life.
I’m Sharon Kozak: Christian wife, mom, military spouse, marriage educator and coach, advocate, and Marriage & Family Therapy student.
Stay anchored. Tend the roots. Turn toward the Light. Make room to grow.
