My husband and I wrote our own vows. Four years ago, we said them in front of family and friends and meant them with all our hearts. What I discovered, as our marriage has matured, is that people grow and change. Parts of our vows are no longer applicable, and others could be so much deeper. For example, my husband vowed to look away from the t.v. when I’m talking to him (false, I may add), and I promised not to run any time I become upset or afraid (unfortunately, a habit that has not exactly gone away). The point is, our wedding vows are well meaning, but some may be promises that we are not sure we can keep. I have a hard time not wanting to run when I think everything is falling apart, but I can promise to talk to my husband when I am getting close to panicking. My husband may not always look away from the t.v. when I talk, he can promise to make time to talk to me when he gets home. The point is, as we mature as individuals, God gives us the opportunity to mature in our marriage. There is so much that we can learn, whether we are married four or forty years, about our spouses. I may not be perfect as a wife, but I will work on marriage every day. I will work to honor God and my husband, and I will do my best to act out of love.