When the Chief’s Away…..

My husband is a chief in the Navy. He’s also a recruiter……who manages seven offices ranging from fifteen minutes away to three hours and fifteen minutes away. Thus I live in a frozen tundra called the Midwest (send help, snow is cold!!!). With this being said, I am in charge of mini sailors one of which who leads a mutiny every single day of my life. Oh….she’s very cute but she’s strong willed and quite smart. Lucky me right?! My husband has a phrase, when the chief is away the sailors will play (don’t ask its kinda lame I know but it’s better than if you have time to lean you have time to clean). When Chief Kozak is away this almost two year old little sailor leads a mutiny of epic proportions. Have you ever fought a strong will toddler that screams like a dinosaur? I have and my goodness it’s never my finest moment. Today’s fight involved her throwing fruit at the cats. (Creative video game idea right?) The point of this all is that she bucks authority and I am fighting a battle where going down with the ship is a decision that is often made. Her fighting spirit is something she got from me…..and I have paid for a lot of my decisions where I fought for what I wanted and it was not everything I thought it would be. I fought God’s path, his guidance, I wanted to steer my own ship and captain my voyage! (Excuse the navy references but hey recruiter wife life lol). I found, after much heartbreak, that fighting authority……fighting God’s will is a battle that I will lose every time. Wisdom comes with losing battles and from this I’ve learned to choose wisely. Today, I lost many battles, but if my children grow up to love God, honor, and follow him then I will have won the war (with all the glory going to God of course). Tomorrow will be another day, another round with my pirate crew. Tonight……I’ll cuddle them and count my blessings that I’m their mother (and take advantage that the chief is home so he can put his crew back in ship shape).



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I’m Sharon Kozak: Christian wife, mom, military spouse, marriage educator and coach, advocate, and Marriage & Family Therapy student.

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